Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Uncover His True Feelings


So. You're talking to a guy at a party; he seems flirty, yet you aren't quite sure he's into you. What gives? "Men are conditioned to suppress their emotions, and as a result they're not as good as women at expressing their feelings," says Kevin Hogan, Psy.D., author of Irresistible Attraction. Luckily, their body language often gives them away—all you have to do is learn to interpret it.

He fusses over you
If you're mid-convo and he suddenly brushes the hair out of your eyes, he isn't being paternal; Justify Fullhe's showing interest.

"When a man is attracted to a woman, he fusses over her by grooming her clothes and hair," says body language expert Patty Wood, author of Success Signals. "It's called 'lint picking'—animals do it too, swatting bugs off potential mates."


He's probably also looking for an excuse to touch you, and briefly entering your personal space is a way to gauge how close he can get. But watch where his hands wander—if his intentions are sincere, he'll respectfully avoid areas like your waist or chest, Wood says.

He looks slightly shocked
As cool as a guy tries to play it, when he's wowed by you it will register on his face. Pay close attention and you'll see him lift his eyebrows slightly and look surprised when talking to you. "This is a subconscious reaction," Wood says. The idea is that he likes what he sees and wants to take it all in.

He turns his chest toward you
When a man points his pecs in your direction, it means you're on his radar, says Helen Fisher, Ph.D., author of Why Him? Why Her? The reasons: evolution and ego. Much as a gorilla commands attention by pounding his chest and roaring, when a guy points his chest your way it means "Look at me, I'm important!"

He slouches
Once you're engaged in conversation, he'll ditch the king of the jungle act and slump forward, rounding his shoulders to appear smaller. "Slouching is a way for a man to seem more approachable to a woman," Hogan says. "His posture says 'I'm on your level, let's connect.'" And according to Fisher, his relaxed stance (otherwise known as "crouching") says he's vulnerable yet comfortable in your presence.

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Tuesday, October 20, 2009

The Better Sex Diet

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Food has been used to express love for centuries. But some eats actually have sexual superpowers, like fueling your libido and enhancing your orgasms
Enhance your chemistry
Fuel your libido
Intensify your orgasms
Share a dark chocolate dessert
Add a carnal condiment
Munch on a banana




11 Foods to Enhance Your Sex Life

If you had to choose between eating a rich piece of chocolate cake and having mind-blowing sex, which would you pick? If you're finding it a tough call, here's why: Food and sex are two of the strongest and most closely linked human desires. "The satisfaction from eating a delicious meal and the satisfaction from having sex both activate pleasure receptors in the brain," says Audrey T. Cross, Ph. D., formerly a professor of nutrition at Columbia University's School of Public Health. "This explains why humans often associate eating with sex." And while the notion of aphrodisiacs is largely unfounded, there are certain foods that can energize you, trigger your libido, and give you stronger orgasms. Eat these foods regularly for a boost in the bedroom.
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Saturday, October 17, 2009

Sex Secrets All Men Keep


When you first start dating a guy, it makes sense that he would conceal stuff he's not particularly proud of—his disorderly apartment, his hairy back, his mother's daily phone calls. But by the time you're a serious couple—maybe even living together—you probably assume you know your bedmate's every last habit, flaw, and idiosyncrasy. Don't be so sure.

According to new research published in The Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, one in 10 men are harboring a serious sexual secret. "There are two kinds of secrets guys keep," says Les Parrott, author of Crazy Good Sex. "Things they wish their wives or girlfriends would understand but are scared they won't, and things they're just plain trying to get away with."

With that in mind, we polled hundreds of men to learn what they hide at each stage in a relationship and enlisted experts to offer their insights. We discovered there's a decent chance your man is keeping at least one dirty secret. Read on to find out what, if anything, you should do about it.

When You're Dating...

What he's hiding: The number of women he's had sex with
Some men exaggerate to sound more sexually experienced; others lowball so you don't dismiss them as players. "Men know that if they confess to a large number of partners, it sends the message that they're unlikely to commit to one. That is, to you," says David Buss, a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin and author of The Evolution of Desire.

What you should do Take him at his word, but protect yourself. Be vigilant about using a condom every time you have sex—at least until you've both been tested for STDs and you feel secure that you're in a committed relationship. If you do somehow discover that he's deceived you about his sexual history, get it out in the open, but give him a chance to explain. "He could have fibbed out of embarrassment, insecurity, or sincere interest in you," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman.


What he's hiding: He looks at porn—maybe a lot
According to a study at Brigham Young University, 87 percent of men have looked at some form of porn in the past year, and one in five help themselves to X-rated fare daily. Men like to look at naked chicks—no surprise there—but what is shocking is how quickly they can become dependent on those erotic images. A powerful pleasure cocktail of endorphins and epinephrine (hormones responsible for arousal and alertness) are released while a man watches porn, Parrott says. And that feeling can become addictive.

What you should do Occasional porn isn't the problem; it only becomes a wrecking ball when it starts to intrude on your sex life together. "The two big questions are 'Is it interfering with your life and relationship?' and 'Is he using it to avoid something?'" says sex therapist Sandor Gardos, Ph.D. If he actively hides his material and makes excuses to avoid having sex, be concerned.

Broach the subject when you're calm and rational. "Angry accusations never go over well," Gardos says. Another tactic: Suggest watching together. "It becomes compulsive when he feels like he has to hide it," he says. So if you're willing to share it with him, you'll take the compulsion out of the equation. Plus, experts say, viewing erotic images together can enhance your sex life.


What he's hiding: He compares you to his last girlfriend
It's true: Your guy whips out his ex ruler and measures everything about you: your looks, your bedroom abilities, how well you get along with his friends. But that's not necessarily a bad thing. "It's normal to make comparisons, and an ex is his most recent reference point," says Christopher Blazina, Ph.D., associate professor of psychology at Tennessee State University.

What you should do Nothing. He'll inevitably come to the conclusion that you blow away anyone else he's ever been with, and the silent comparathon raging in his mind will cease. When you should do something: if he frequently blurts out things like "My ex always..." or "My last girlfriend never..." It's not necessarily a sign that he hasn't gotten over her, but it can still be hurtful, Blazina says. When that happens, it's fair to tell him, for example, that you don't want him bringing up the details of their trip to Mexico. Chances are, he's not even aware he's been doing it and will be happy to stop.
http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/mens-sex-secrets

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7 WAYS TO KEEP YOUR BREASTS HEALTHY



When it comes to young women and breast cancer, there's good news and bad news.

The good: Their chances of having the disease are much lower than an older woman's.

The bad: If cancer does strike, it can be more aggressive, says Debra Mangino, M.D., of New York's Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center.

But a healthy lifestyle can help protect your breasts. These are the changes and early-detection methods experts say are key:




1. Stay at a healthy weight
Being heavy can increase your risk of developing the disease as well as reduce your risk of surviving it, says Harold Freeman, M.D., president and founder of the Ralph Lauren Center for Cancer and Prevention in New York City.








2. Break a sweat
Aim to exercise for 45 minutes to an hour five days a week. Regular gym time may help prevent the disease by boosting immune function, warding off obesity, and lowering levels of estrogen and insulin.








3. Drink less alcohol
Research has shown that two drinks a day could increase breast cancer risk by 21 percent. Instead, try swapping wine for fresh grapes. Resveratrol, found in the skin of grapes, may help reduce your estrogen levels, which in turn may reduce your risk.








4. Eat your veggies
A low-fat diet can do a lot to reduce your risk, but for even more protection, add some cruciferous vegetables, such as broccoli and kale, to your plate. They contain sulforaphane, which is believed to help prevent cancer cells from multiplying. For an extra dose of cancer-fighting power, eat them raw.






5. Know your family history
"In about 15 percent of breast cancer cases, there is a family history of the disease," Freeman says. If you have one first-degree relative who had breast cancer, your lifetime risk doubles, and if you have two your risk increases five-fold.








6. Get checked
All women should have a clinical breast exam at least every three years and annual exams and mammograms starting at age 40. Women with a family history should begin screening 10 years prior to the family member's age of diagnosis. Ask if the facility offers digital mammography--it allows for adjustments in contrast so the image can be easier to see. Young women at increased risk may also want to ask for either an MRI or a sonogram in addition to the mammogram.






7. Consider genetic testing
"When cancer strikes young women, it's more likely to be connected to a BRCA mutation," Mangino says. Two red flags for being a BRCA carrier: being of Ashkenazi (Eastern European) Jewish descent or having a family history of both breast and ovarian cancer. "If you have either of these factors, see a genetic counselor to talk about getting tested," she says.




http://www.womenshealthmag.com/health/protect-yourself-from-breast-cancer